Fate - Good or bad hard to say

Fate.  When people say they leave it up to fate it sounds so positive.  People with BPD Boardline personality disorder don't see the positive right away.  I hear fate as a negative force.  Fate is chaos that can wipe out a family.  I have to do something to be ready to fight off fate.  Believing fate is believing the heavens will line up your life so that it is good.  I would get mad at the people who are so arrogant to think their world is plotting to make everything line up just for them.  Yet most people say it ,so the world is just arrogant.  I think it is meant to be neutral.  It does not favor anyone and no one thinks it does.  They are saying that what ever happens is going to happen and could good or bad it is out of my control so I will see what will come that is unexpected and then decide if it is good or bad.   Because good or bad, hard to say.

Good or bad - hard to say
This goes back to sometime something happens and you think how bad this is but it makes you have to do something else or open a new door for yourself.  Maybe even makes you do something you were putting off but sometimes the bad things are the best things to happen to you when you look back.  I know that in my life the bad things could become things that I feel good about happening because some of the things that have happened in my life happen only because a bad thing happened and they were the best things in my life now.



So when something bad happens, just wait before declaring this a bad day or event.  The day could turn out to be better than the one you planned on.  And if it is bad, just go with it because the bad trips or events I have been on with my family have become my favorite memories.  We love to laugh at how bad the hotel or food was.  Joke about how mad we were or poke fun at each other for being mad or sad at the event.  Over time those memories became our families go to fun time stories.  So was the scary snow tubing trip or trashy Paris streets really bad when years later these trips bring us so much laughter.  Good or bad hard to say.