Monday, December 14, 2020

Yes, you would have been a Nazi.

 People often say that if they lived in Nazi Germany that they would not have gone along with the Germans.  They would have known it was wrong and stood up for the Jews.  But would you really?  What if they told you the Jews were diseased.  You didn't have the disease but if the Jews shopped at your store or eat at the same restaruant as you they could give you the disease.  Even though they looked healthy.    Well, now we know who the Germans of 1940 are today.  If you are yelling at healthy antilock down protesters because you believe these people will give you a disease they don't seem to have.  You are the Germans.  Governments don't just get you to turn on each other by using religion that is too hard.  They get you to do it by fear of your own life.  They told the Germans that the Jews were diseased.  They must be taken away for your safety.  And now healthy people should be locked away in their homes.  No, it is not as bad as it was in 1940 Germany but if you are so angry at a person and wish them harm because you fear a disease that 99.98%  of you will fully recover from then you would never have been the ones who stood up for the Jews but the ones who allowed the State to take away everything from the Jews until there was nothing left to take but their life.    

Monday, April 8, 2019

My thought on Autism Awareness.

For Autism Awareness month I thought I who let people know what I would want people to be aware of about Autism.
First this is just my list and it may not be someone else's.  We have a saying, "if you have met one kid with Autism you have met one kid with Autism."  That means no 2 are alike.  So, when we say our son has Autism then you tell us how a kid your son goes to school with has Autism, that doesn't mean anything to us and we really don't know what to say after that but "ok".  They have even different health concerns and different abilities.
Next, there is no Scientist or doctor on the planet who knows what causes Autism so please don't tell us you know it is caused by genetics.  As a family that has had 3 genetic test we know it isn't.  We say in the Autism world that "genetics loads the gun but environment pulls the trigger". What causes it in one person may not be the thing that causes it in another.
Lastly, Autism family members are accidental activist so we have no problem answering questions about Autism and most of us don't mind talking about it at all.  We are not ashamed of it so it is not rude to ask us questions because the more you know the more others will know and that is what awareness is all about.

I will tell you that there are many camps in the autism world.  For myself I don't think of autism much on the day to day.  It doesn't defend my family.  Some families define themselves as a military family, a Christian family, or a special needs family.  Well, we are a Jewish family, a natural family (planet based products avoid chemicals and plastic), we are a homeschooling family and then a special needs family.  Even though I have 2 special needs kids.  I do worry about autism and the future a lot but that is a different post.  Most people with autism in their family will be either an autism family or a special needs family.  But that is not the camps.  I can tell if I am in the same camp with another autism family by asking one question.  What do you think of Autism Speaks?  If you like them or support them you should get off this post right now but I am not in that camp at all.  I am in the Autism speaks doesn't speak for me camp.   Autism speak people have their kids one bunch of meds for behavior.  Autism doesn't speak people change the kids diet and remove chemicals for behavior changes.  We talk about cleaning the gut, probiotics, supplements.  We go to birthday parties with the gluten free cake and talk about how great the infrared sauna has helped with detoxing.  See our kids don't detox on their own because most of them have the mthfr gene mutation.  We compare B12 supplement chewables.   When you go to the Autism speak people it is all red dye number 5, artificial sweeteners and mom's comparing which meds have helped and which meds made their kids rage.  If you think I am judging, well I am because this is my blog and I can judge away.
Do I think one way is better than another, yes.  If I didn't I wouldn't be in one camp.  My kids are hurt by the side effects of the meds and we strictly stay away from them and I would tell anyone to do the same.  I don't want a zombie for a kid because it is better than them being loud. 

Sunday, March 10, 2019

Fate - Good or bad hard to say

Fate.  When people say they leave it up to fate it sounds so positive.  People with BPD Boardline personality disorder don't see the positive right away.  I hear fate as a negative force.  Fate is chaos that can wipe out a family.  I have to do something to be ready to fight off fate.  Believing fate is believing the heavens will line up your life so that it is good.  I would get mad at the people who are so arrogant to think their world is plotting to make everything line up just for them.  Yet most people say it ,so the world is just arrogant.  I think it is meant to be neutral.  It does not favor anyone and no one thinks it does.  They are saying that what ever happens is going to happen and could good or bad it is out of my control so I will see what will come that is unexpected and then decide if it is good or bad.   Because good or bad, hard to say.

Good or bad - hard to say
This goes back to sometime something happens and you think how bad this is but it makes you have to do something else or open a new door for yourself.  Maybe even makes you do something you were putting off but sometimes the bad things are the best things to happen to you when you look back.  I know that in my life the bad things could become things that I feel good about happening because some of the things that have happened in my life happen only because a bad thing happened and they were the best things in my life now.

So when something bad happens, just wait before declaring this a bad day or event.  The day could turn out to be better than the one you planned on.  And if it is bad, just go with it because the bad trips or events I have been on with my family have become my favorite memories.  We love to laugh at how bad the hotel or food was.  Joke about how mad we were or poke fun at each other for being mad or sad at the event.  Over time those memories became our families go to fun time stories.  So was the scary snow tubing trip or trashy Paris streets really bad when years later these trips bring us so much laughter.  Good or bad hard to say.

Monday, May 7, 2018

Dr.Jordan B Peterson quotes to manage life

You only get to the furture by learning from the past and living the present as you want the future to be. 

If you fulfill your obligations everyday, you don't need to worry about the future

Don't say things that make you weak

Remind yourself of the good things you have accomplished

Don't let your kids be someone you don't like

You are not who you could be and you could be worthwhile.

Don't do things that you hate because you will take it out on others, even if you think you wont

Be grateful even in your suffering

Act so you can tell the truth about the way you act

You need to live independently of the good and bad opinions of others

Do not try to save someone who isn't asking to be saved

Opportunity lurks where responsiblity has been abdicated

Don't avoid something because it is frighting if it stands in your way

Imagine who you could be and then aim single-mindedly toward that. 

If you can't order your own life you shouldn't order anything more than that. 

Set your house in perfect order before you critice someone elses

Play the most magnificent game you can’ while you’re waiting (to die), because you don’t have anything better to do really. Why not ‘pick the best thing possible that you could do’

Don't protect your kids from anything bad happening to them.  Make them strong enough so that any number of things can happen to them.

Do not rob people of their pain or anger by making it your anger and pain also.

You never solve someone's problem's by removing from them the opportunity to solve the problem on their own. That disarms them in the face of chaos and malevolence.

You reason with people you respect
You bully or force those who you hold in contempt 

Don't judge people by the worst thing they have done.

Listen as if the other person knows something that you need to learn

“You don't get to choose not to pay a price, you only get to choose which price you pay”

You should take care of, help and be good to yourself the same way you would take care of, help and be good to someone you loved and valued.


Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care with yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination and articulate your Being.   Friedrich Nietzsche so brilliantly noted, “He whose life has a why can bear almost any how.”

Don't give anyone your opinion about their life unless they ask you for it. 

Anything you let win grows.  Don't practice what you don't want to become.

When people complain to you don't get anger for them, just listen and tell them you are sorry they are going thru that.
Don't make it about you and what you would do.  Don't get anger on their behalf and try to help them see what they should do or say what you would do.  It is up to them and they don't need that and you don't need that. 

Sunday, March 11, 2018

The true value in life

There isn't enough women CEOs  - Then go be one yourself or sit down.

I am so tried of Buzzfeed and Huff Post saying things like "There isn't enough women CEOs or in Steam.  The problem isn't that there isn't more women in high power jobs the problem is we are making a society that doesn't value women who take care of their families.  A lot of women do not get a choice and have to work but for those who can choose to raise their family themselves instead of hiring someone to do it are very lucky and I wish every woman including myself was so lucky.  We say how unimportant your job will seem when you are on your death bed yet we all spend every moment we are a live judging people by their careers.  A good family that you put first is more important than what you do for a job.  The job just gives you money but a family gives you a reason to live.  I pledge now not to ask people about what they do for a living but to ask about their family, the things that actually matters.       Yes, I know some women like to work and good for you, don't get upset I am just saying no matter what great job you have your family is more important than that job.  But we teach kids that the only thing in life that matter is what title comes after your name.  Your value as a person comes from those who love you not your title and this country is backwards.  Next time someone says something about women need to be in this field more or that one lets remember that rat race doesn't matter and lets value what any woman chooses to do no matter what that is.  No one ever regrets not working more hours.  Ask one person who was told they had cancer and see if they wished they had more time on earth to work. 

Sunday, February 25, 2018

Why does G-d let people die?

Why does G-d let people die?  A lot of people when trying to prove a point to a believer is to point out that innocent people died before their time.  Why would G-d let kids die?  Well, for me at this point in my live I have a new view on it.  For those that believe in an afterlife or if you believe in a new life being reborn here on earth, if you believe in that then why would you believe that G-d would think that your child dying was a bad thing that he must stop?  Why would going to him and being in perfect peace and love be something he should save kids from?   When you grieve remember it is a selfish act.  I am not saying you are selfish but that it is natural and human to be selfish and want your loved ones with you.  It is very human to be in pain but maybe G-d is on a level that is higher than your understanding and he doesn't see people coming home to him or being reborn and moving forward with their journeys as a terrible horrible thing.  I am sure he wants everyone to have a long happy life but free will and laws of nature are the working forces on this earth and I think  G-d lets us have free will even if it is to kill.  He can't take away some's free will to save someone else.  He can't change the laws of nature to save someone's life.   He can't change the heart of someone who's heart he doesn't live in.  With that I mean that people will say that they pray that G-d would change the heart of someone else but he can't change someone if he doesn't live in them.  They have to use their free will to let him change their heart and mind.  G-d couldn't have stopped Hitler or Stalin because G-d didn't live in them.  But you will see G-d in those who he lives in.  Doesn't matter which name you call G-d or what religion you are in but if G-d lives in you the world can see it.  G-d didn't sit back and  do nothing during the Holocaust.  He guided the hearts of many people to help and to armies all over the plant to step up and put a stop to it.  But that doesn't mean that G-d sees the death of 6 million people the same as we here on earth do.  He would be welcoming them home or giving them a fresh start at a new life.  Either way he may not see it as the painful event we see it as.  So G-d not saving people's lives isn't to me proof that he isn't real. Don't get me wrong I don't believe G-d takes lives either.  Some will say he called someone home but I don't think so because again free will would be taken away. I think he would let us live and then life happens and people suffer or die.  Sometimes both.  But G-d lives inside every person who allows it and works in our heart to help, to love, to share, and to be G-d's hand on this earth.  I do not understand everything about this earth and there is to much unknown for me to cross anything off so I will choose to believe because at the end of the day it helps me and that is something we all need.  A way to get thru the day.
I guess I can apply this to my own life as well.  Maybe G-d sits so far up and doesn't have a society with standards so he doesn't think that Autism is a big deal.  G-d would probably think it was no different then the rest of us.  Maybe G-d would think I was crazy for being so worried and sad about my sons.  I think of G-d the way he is written about in the song "G-d is watching"
From a distance you look like my friend
Even though we are at war
From a distance I just cannot comprehend
What all this fighting is for
From a distance there is harmony
And it echoes through the land
And it's the hope of hopes
It's the love of loves
It's the heart of every man
It's the hope of hopes
It's the love of loves
This is the song for every man
God is watching us
God is watching us
God is watching us from a distance

Yes, you would have been a Nazi.

 People often say that if they lived in Nazi Germany that they would not have gone along with the Germans.  They would have known it was wro...